Tonight, to many members of my family, is the real Thanksgiving, the night we spend with our close circle of cousins before gallivanting off to various families and parts of the country for the lesser Thanksgiving next week.
What we never expected was for the "close circle of cousins" to get so large.
See, the usual "close circle of cousins" involves about 8 or 9 of my generation (for perspective, Grandma had 20 grandkids) and their various spouses, which raises the number to 13 or 14 people.
So the Cousins Thanksgiving used to be a fairly cozy affair in San Francisco as we gathered to drink and eat and just hang out.
The thing is, one of my cousins, pictured above, married into the Rogers clan, which is just as large and close-knit as the Phan clan (my mother's maiden name is Phan, so I'm considered a Phan for these purposes).
The Phan clan and the Rogers clan get along extremely well, so when Kevin comes along, he brings his brother Pete, and with them come their cousin and childhood friend Bob, while his sister Liz also comes by if she isn't on call at the UCSF hospital. Liz brings her husband Steve, naturally, and Steve often brings his two sisters, who also feel like part of the Phan family by now, and...
Then we have the roommates and friends, because now Tania is my sister's roommate and dating one of my cousin's oldest friends, so they both get invited, and then my cousin's other friend gets invited because they're rooming, and now that we've invited three out of them we might as well invite the fourth, and...
Can you see how this balloons? The invite list for the Cousins Thanksgiving is well over 30 people now, and it may be the case that we'll soon need to hold the Cousins Thanksgiving at a banquet hall, because we just don't have room for everyone...
Not that I'm complaining, mind you. I love all of these people dearly, and I know that there are plenty of people who would kill for such a large and supportive family.
It's just overwhelming, sometimes, how many people I'm either related to by marriage, or feel like I'm related to despite no blood or marriage linking us.
So anyway, happy real Thanksgiving to all of you tonight, and may you spend it with people you love before going to your families, who you may or may not get along with.